Friday, 26 February 2010

How am I supposed to cope...Can you help me?

This is probably one of the most difficult things I've ever had to admit to and its something that I never thought I'd have the courage to say let alone accept.

I'm really not coping at the moment.

On Xmas eve my fiancee left me and my whole world basically fell apart. We were supposed to be getting married on October 2nd this year-the venues, honeymoon, photographer, caterers, DJ were booked and I had found my wedding dress.
We'd talked about trying for a family a year or so after the wedding, we knew where we were going and I thought we were happy. Turns out it was only me that was happy, he wasn't sure it was what he wanted anymore or if he loved me.
Christmas day and boxing day passed in a blur-I slept alot, I didn't eat and I didn't really talk, I cried a little bit but not properly(I cried the first few days but after that I decided I needed to pull myself together-I don't like to seem weak)
The day after boxing day my parents went to visit family and I went home to help him move the rest of his stuff out, not too sure why I helped him-I think i was still in shock-I wanted to see him for a bit longer.
The next day I went away with my parents and sister to see my Uncle in Holland for the week between Christmas and New Years, mainly because I couldn't stand the idea of being in the house on my own and not being near my parents and also because I just wanted to be away from everything. I didn't want to have to answer peoples questions or even begin to think about how I was going to afford the house and the car on my own.

I started this blog on New Years day, if you go back and read my first post you can see the kind of frame of mind I was in, I was excited about starting a new chapter in my life and becoming a new person, being away from the situation and home made it seem so much simpler, it felt like it was just a case of getting back home and going full steam ahead into a new life.
I'd deal with it, I'd cope and I'd be fine.

Problem is I've not dealt with whats happened, I've thrown myself into projects and anything I can think of to try and distract myself from the fact that things aren't ok. I've been putting on a front for the past few months and trying my hardest to not let people see that things are getting to me or affecting me.

The past two months have gone past in a blur, I cant remember what I did yesterday let alone last week. I've not slept or eaten properly in weeks and its really starting to take its toll, I wake up feeling headachey and dizzy, anything I eat makes me feel sick-clothes are hanging off of me (I've lost enough weight to go down a shoe size!) I haven't done any housework since January-luckily my sister has moved in and has taken over the main job of cleaning-my office and bedroom are a mess and I can't concentrate or relax when things aren't organised or neat. I manage best when there are routines and plans set in place, I like to know what has to be done when-it helps me to feel in control.

I'm in self destruct mode, I know I'm making myself ill, I'm contemplating silly things (like dosing myself up on the stupidly strong painkillers the Dr gave me because I know they help me relax to the point that I'm not safe to drive) I know I'm working to much, some days I feel nothing and other my minds going at a mile a minute and I feel like I'm going crazy.

I know I've been running away from things but its because I cant even begin to understand how I'm supposed to cope with all of this and all of a sudden over the past few days I've realised just how bad I've let it get.

So there, I've admitted it. I can't cope and I'm scared and most of all I don't know how to fix it.

I was going to wait until tomorrow morning to post this, I was going to sleep on it and see how I feel in the morning but I'm worried that if I don't post it now I'll convince myself I'm fine and carry on again for another few weeks and make it even worse.
Strangely enough at this moment in time I don't feel scared putting this out there for all to see, at least if my feelings are out there and written down I've admitted how I'm feeling, I realise I'm making myself extremely vulnerable by doing this but I wouldn't be doing it if I didn't think I needed too, in all honesty I'm scared about how things will carry on if I don't.

So this is me reaching out, I'm asking for help, how do I go about tackling all of this?
Where do I start?

Wednesday, 17 February 2010

Wordless Wednesday - Fridge Pics

In response to Taras 'Wordless Wednesday: The Fridge door' post

The fridge tends to have mysterious, yet often insightful, messages appear on it!

Saturday, 13 February 2010

I love a guy who can sing

Not sure how I stumbled across this guy but I'm so glad I did!
His name is Sam Tsui and I think he's amazing...what can I say I'm a sucker for a guy who can sing and the fact that they've covered this song makes it all the more impressive. All the arrangements are created by his friend Kurt Schneider and sung by Sam I'll be posting some more of their videos on here but if you want to check them out for yourself here's their YouTube channel

Thursday, 11 February 2010

I'm a member of the Secret Post Club, are you?

Heather over at Notes from Lapland had the amazingly brilliant idea the other day of starting a 'Secret Post Club'

The joy of seeing a hand written envelope or parcel that is neither a bill nor someone trying to sell you something.

The excitement as you open it. What is it? Who is it from?

The rush to devour the contents, skim read the letter to find who has sent it to you.

And the warm happiness as you sit down and leisurely take it all in, often re reading parts of the letter or turning over the small gift in your hands. A fuzzy happiness that someone out there thought of you and bothered to send you something, that a few days ago they were thinking of you and reached out to touch your life in some little way.

Everyone loves to receive unexpected gifts or letters, but how many of us do these days? And how many of us are guilty of not doing the reaching out in the first place?

I know I am.

As a teenager my best friends and I wrote to each other all the time, and it was such a lovely feeling, knowing that you were in that person's thoughts right then, even though you weren't with them and were probably sitting at home eating your tea or watching Eastenders at the time. And yet as the years have passed and email, text messages, Facebook and Twitter have replaced all that, it feels like we are missing something, like something is being lost.

And I want to regain that, I wonder if you do too.
If your anything like me you will be stupidly excited about this idea, if you fancy joining the club just click through on the links at the top of this post and it will take you to the form you need :-)

In fact its so good its going under my 'Greatest ever...' labels
Greatest ever...parcel related idea!

Saturday, 6 February 2010

More proof of my geeky-ness...

Forget 'Westside' & 'Eastside'
this is...
Windows Microsoft Excel
Gotta love spreadsheets!

Friday, 5 February 2010

Favourite Photos Friday

Not sure how old Natalie and I are in this pic but im guessing it was taken around 1993-1994.
So glad we dont have that lovely carpet in the living room anymore!
The funny thing is that I went over to a work friends house the other week and we were looking at pictures of her kids and she had one exactly the same as this, pushing each other around in a pushchair.
Any mummy bloggers have a pic like this?

Thursday, 4 February 2010

Wednesday, 3 February 2010

Tuesday, 2 February 2010

Greatest ever...Tic-Tac flavour

Just wanted to share this with you...

We found them in Holland and the taste is spot on-Best flavour ever!